8 habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey
Habit #1 BE Proactive
Proactive people take responsibility for their own lives. They determine the agendas they will follow and choose their response to what happens around them. Reactive people don’t take responsibility for their own lives. They feel victimized, a product of circumstances, their past, and other people. They do not see as the creative force of their lives. You could have a good day no matter what comes your way. Focus on things you can change.
Habit #2 Begin with the End in Mind Based on the work Stephen Covey
Begin with the End in Mind means developing a clear picture of where you want to go with your life. Deciding what your values are and Setting Goals. Good reasons to have an end in mind. The paths you choose now can affect you forever. If you don’t decide your own future, someone else will do it for you. A powerful document that expresses your personal sense of Purpose and meaning in life. It acts as a governing Constitution by which you evaluate decisions and choose behaviors. End in mind is very important for everybody. When you wake up, you should plan to do something for today. You can start with what is the beginning, how you will act to others, and where you will end up for today.
Habit #3 Put First Things First Based on the work of Stephen Covey
Key Paradigms “I will focus on importance instead of urgency.” Importance An activity is important if you personally find it valuable, and if it contributes to your mission values, and high-priority goals. Urgency An activity is urgent if you or others feel that it requires immediate attention. Effective Management is putting first things first. Urgent Matters are usually visible. Important Matters contribute to our mission.
Habit #4 Think Win-Win Based on the work of Stephen Covey
SIX PARADIGMS OF HUMAN INTERACTION Win-Win, Win-Lose, Lose-Win, Lose-Lose, Win or No-Deal.
Competition can be very healthy. It drives you to improve to reach and stretch but it becomes dark when you use it as a way to place yourself above others. Comparing yourself with others. This is cancerous and will only lead to bad news. It will make us feel inferior to others. The only thing you should compare yourself to is your own potential.
Win/Win is not a personality technique. It’s a total paradigm of human interaction. It comes from a character of integrity, maturity, and the Abundance Mentality. It grows out of high-trust relationships. It is embodied in agreements that effectively clarify and manage expectations as well as accomplishment. It thrives in supportive systems.
Win/Win seeks mutual benefits in all human interactions. Win/Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial. Win/Win is the belief that it’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way.
Win/Lose states if I win you lose. In Leadership style, Win/Lose is an authoritarian approach. Win/Lose people are prone to use position, power, credentials, possessions, or personality to get their way.
Lose/Win stands for no demands, no expectations and no vision. People who think Lose/Win are usually quick to please or appease. They seek strength from popularity or acceptance. Lose/Win people have little courage to express their own feelings and convictions and are easily intimidated by the ego strength of others.
When two Win/Lose determine, stubborn, ego-invested individuals interact-the result will be Lose/Lose. Both will lose. Both will become vindictive and want to “get back” or “get even,” blind to the fact that murder is suicide, that revenge is a two-edged sword. Lose/Lose is the philosophy of the highly dependent person without inner direction who is miserable and thinks everyone else should be, too.
People with the Win mentality don’t necessarily want someone else to lose. That’s irrelevant. What matters is that they get what they want. Win mentality thinks in terms of securing his own ends-and leaving it to others to secure theirs.
No Deal basically means that if we can’t find a solution that would benefit us both, we agree to disagree agreeably-No Deal. No expectations have been created and no performance contracts established.
Habit #5Based on the work of Stephen Covey Seek first to Understand, Then to be Understood
You need to understand other first before you start wanting other to understand you. Listen first, talk second. Understand other will have a big effect on how you judge the person. Seeking First to Understand is only half of habit 5. Seeking to Be Understood is way more challenging since it requires courage. If you can understand others, then others will surely understand you too.
Habit #6Based on the work of Stephen Covey Synergize
Synergizing or synergy is when you achieve something with more than one person or in a group to create a better solution. It’s not my way or your way it’s a better way to solve or do something.
When you use synergy in your everyday life you’re a team worker. You want to hear other people’s opinions and what they have to say. You don’t ignore them or say no to whatever they may have to say.
An example of synergy is two heads are better than one. Which is when two people are thinking you could solve a problem a better way or have a better solution for that problem.
Habit #7 Sharpen the Saw Based on the work of Stephen Covey
You need to restore your health and take care of yourself to be prepared. Eat good food. Relax. Get enough sleep. Practice yoga. Play sports. Take walks. Stretch out. Aerobics workout. Read newspapers. Visit a library. Write a story. Debate. Play board games. Play an instrument. You have to want something to get it. Renew and awaken your inner self. Meditate, pray, Draw, write, read, Walk, listen to music, Get real, You can do it. Treat your soul with respect.
Habit #8Based on the work of Stephen Covey Find your voice and inspire others to find theirs
Find your voice & inspire others to do likewise. Find your voice Inspire others to find their voices. Focus Execution •Find your voice •Express your voice •Expand your influence • Be trustworthy •Build trust •Blend others voices •Create a common vision •Align goals and system •Empower others
To find your voice means to engage in work that genuinely taps your talents and fuels your passion.
Three gifts of nature - Freedom to choose - Laws of nature - The four intelligences
Intelligences = physical, spiritual, emotional and mental
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